So a few years back, I was a femme that claim to be open to dating trans women, I use to shame other women who weren’t open to the idea . I did this because I thought it was the right thing to do and I saw trans women as emotionally fragile , and telling them the truth about their biology or saying you won’t date them would cause them to go into depression or worse kill themselves. I thought it was my job to make them feel better by telling them they passed for female , even though I could clearly tell they were males, and complimenting them on their photos even if I thought other wise. I thought that I owed them this because they were part of my community, I knew deep down that I would never want to date and sleep with them, I even tried to imagine it , but would always realize I want a real woman, and not a man that had a neo vagina. I didn’t worry because I thought chances of me meeting a trans woman in real life was slim , so I could say I would date them and not follow true with it . I just wanted them to be who they are without harm . I realized they weren’t the fragile type they claim to be when I saw them threatening women with rape and murder , also they were threatening a straight woman’s lesbian sister with rape and took pictures of themselves holding weapons saying “fetch me a terf ”, or “ find me a terf? ”
I realized they weren’t the fragile people they claimed to be they were just angry men that had an axe to grind with lesbians, they hated us for our sexual orientation wanted us dead, acted just like any straight man I’ve met in fact worse . These were the same males that lied to me and told me lesbians were being mean to them for no reason, and kick them out of lgbt spaces or lesbian spaces (which don’t exist anymore because these men shut lesbians spaces down) ,one thing I have known is trans women hide their true nature from their followers they keep us in the dark because they don’t want us to know how cruel they actually are or what it is they are really fighting for .
Story time! About two years ago I was the same type of person you described. I was a normal 15 year old lesbian who posted cute pictures on tumblr. I was veeeery libfemish and reblogged selfies from trans women telling them how lovely they looked. I said that I would date a trans woman. I shamed other lesbians who thought otherwise. I saw all the stuff you saw but I was convinced that this was okay. I was convinced that they can act this way because they were being “oppressed” because they told me that these women had done bad things to them. One of these trans women, lets call her “Kate”, actually talked to me a lot as we had tons of things in common. When she asked me out, I felt very pressured into saying yes because she told me that I made her feel validated and pretty. So we dated. She even visited me, which you can see here. She did not dress ANYTHING like a woman. She did not even TRY to pass. Don’t believe me? Look. Mascara and long hair. TOTALLY WOMAN.
God, I was so uncomfortable when she kissed me and touched me. We dated for about 3 months before suddenly she was like “hey, I think I might not be trans. I think I might just be a gnc boy. Do you still like me?” and I said I am a lesbian. I do not like boys. This was, yes, a relief to me and finally an excuse to leave him. They he went on this RANT about how I must have never loved him and all that.
Needless to say, it was hell. All of his friends, who were trans women, started harassing me. Saying I was just looking for an excuse, which was true and when I admitted that I was not ever attracted to him and felt pressured all hell broke loose.
The leader of this group, lets call her “Stacy”, posted all kinds of mean things about me. To the point where I blocked her. She is actually a very popular trans woman but namedropping her would lead her back to me. So everything eventually calms down. I am not reblogging much about trans women anymore and have started learning a lot about radical feminism. I get an add on kik from this girl who claims to have talked to me on tumblr before. I have a mental illness which impacts my memory so I just believe her. We talk and shes sending me pictures of herself and shes like really cute. Little do I know that this is Stacy catfishing me. She coerces me into sending nudes and all that and even went so far as to creating an active blog for the girl she made up. Once she gets my nudes she reveals who she is and threatens to post the nudes. Keep in mind that at this point I was about 16. I’m baffled and I feel so stupid. She continues blackmailing me and even makes me delete my blog and apologize to ‘Kate’, which I did. Theres something else really awful she did that one day I might post about but right now it isn’t something I should post publicly about.
Trans women are not fragile. They are as violent as the men they claim they aren’t as soon as something slightly inconveniences them.
Releasing nudes of minors is illegal isn’t it? If this happens to another minor follower, I suggest contacting the police even if it’s scary or if you’ll get in trouble too.
troons are fucking batshit insane narcissists this is textbook hoovering (sometimes it’s done through catfishing)
Just wanted to add that I value you ladies for sharing your stories, thank you for being real about this.
Please remember that young lesbians are particularly vulnerable to the manipulation perpetrated by the trans community because they are oftentimes still questioning their identity. There is a lot of pressure on young girls to participate in liberal feminist politics and they face social isolation and smear campaigns from schoolmates when they’re vocal about their desire not to participate in transcult bullshit.
Holy shit, I hope you ladies are ok! If need anybody to talk to feel free to message me, same goes for anybody else going through anything like this!
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