velvety-secret:

Like there’s an underlying issue of men viewing sexual activity as a thing to be obtained from women instead of a mutually enjoyable activity, to the point where you’re made to feel that having or not having sex with a man is a matter of appeasing or not appeasing him, rather than a matter of engaging or not engaging in an activity that you would do if you liked that person and wanted to do it. It’s an unequal dynamic that constantly leaves women on the defense and makes us feel horribly unsafe so maybe we should…not have that mentality.