ugh im so into garters and stockings too but i always feel like im giving in to some sort of male gaze thing but for women (female gaze??)… how do you cope 😑

simple: i don’t have a “male gaze” because i’m not a man, and neither do you. our sexual desire for women and our attraction to women isn’t like a man’s in any way, shape, or form. fighting internalized and external homophobia is tough, especially with the nice little tumblr trend of hating lesbians or just pretending like lesbians don’t have sexual desires beyond soft gentle handholding or some shit