What is so nuts about identity politics is that the words you use to identify yourself don’t have to have anything to do with who and what you actually are. Case in point women who “identify” as lesbians who also are comfortable having sex with male genitalia. Instead of thinking “I am okay with both vaginas and penises in my sex life I must actually be bisexual, not lesbian;” they think “I’m a lesbian who likes penises as well as vaginas, therefore lesbians can also like penis.”
Identity politics is all about wanting to assume some attribute you think is cool and then just saying you are the thing you are not but wish you were. After that if anyone questions you do mental gymnastics so that stating a fact is an act of hate against the group you wish you were part of but are not but now pretend to be and sheesh why isnt that enough?