thylovelylionheart:

I absolutely hate it when people call sex a need. “I have needs” or “he has specific needs”—no, you have wants. Sex is a desire, not a need; otherwise nuns and monks would’ve died from practicing celibacy. And 99% of the time that I see sex being called a need, it’s to justify cheating.

So can we please stop disillusioning ourselves and stop calling sex a need

that was one (of many) things that irked me about the Fifty Shades movies; Anastasia says “i can’t give you what you need, Christian” “i can’t give him what he needs” like he will absolutely wither away if he has to have sex that doesn’t involve his creepy abusive Oedipal power fantasies