ghost-jerk:

hot take: this whole culture of “don’t make anybody feel uncomfortable ever” is… bad.

i’m not saying that you should go out of your way to make people feel uncomfortable, or that it’s okay to do it for fun.

but there are certain instances that are sure to result in discomfort, like talking about your emotional baggage, or rejecting somebody, or sharing that you feel disappointed in some one you love, or saying “this is unhealthy and you can’t continue like this.”

i think the whole “safe space” thing had good intentions when people started saying it. it was people saying, look, we’re not going to be assholes and MAXIMIZE your discomfort, and we’re not going to induce discomfort just for the sake of discomfort, and if this kind of discomfort would cause you some kind of unnecessary trauma, you don’t have to partake. but for a lot of people i know, the slightest discomfort, the slightest challenge is like death, and that leaves no room for growth.

my unsolicited advice: get comfortable being uncomfortable. it’s good for you.