lesbian-venting:

if you genuinely think i’m “dehumanizing” someone by turning them down because of my incapability of any attraction to whatever’s in their pants, then you must confront the fact that you think i’ve dehumanized every cis man who’s ever asked me out.  You cannot say “oh turning down this individual b/c you don’t like dick is fine because he belongs to [x] group so it’s not

dehumanizing, but turning down this other individual for the same reason is dehumanizing and inhumane”.  That’s not how dehumanization works.  You either agree that this is a reasonable way for humans to behave across the board – that it does not injure or disrespect the other person – or you have to admit that there ARE injurious/dehumanizing aspects to the way i treat all people that i turn down based on this principal (which was, last i checked… just cis men) and they must be confronted.

And if you find yourself agreeing with the second point – that behaving like this in general is

injurious/dehumanizing to all recipients of my lack of desire – then you must acknowledge undeniable common ground you have with mainstream homophobic religious groups who think that lesbians dehumanize men, and that they opt to pursue a repulsive lifestyle that prioritizes their own fetishistic sexuality instead of trying to understand the humanity of those they choose not to sleep with.