emulsions:

why are trans men so constantly gaslit? why does it seem that the queer community gets a high out of their mistreatment of trans men? why are trans men told the misogyny they experienced was actually “misdirected.” how can something be misdirected, when the way you are treated is directly acted upon and against you? trans men are told they are violent oppressors who almost identically resemble cis men. but not once in my life have i found any instances of this to be true. because it is not true. trans men are told what they experience isn’t what happened, their feelings of sadness or anxiety are actually violent and male. imagine how narcissistic someone has to be, to look at male violence against females as a class, and then equate them to that of their oppressor. imagine the level of narcissism and sociopathy it takes to delude the disadvantaged so much of their reality. under what, moral righteousness? being a “good person?”

trans men deserve love and healing. they deserve the chance to reconcile with their minds, bodies, and the world they have experienced. they have the right to acknowledge how misogyny impacted them and continues to impact them. they are not violent, and they are not the same as cis men. likewise, they are not traitors to women, they are individuals. shame and judgement do not help. there is a way to work through trauma while still respecting and acknowledging identity AND sex-based material realities.