auntiewanda:

screamingsiren:

unapolpgeticalfeminist:

I am once again blown away by how sexism saves men from doing any kind of work in the household.

Situation as follows: my grandma is in the hospital, and my grandpa and their oldest son live with her. So now that she is gone, they are completely unable to handle the household.

Yesterday I went and cooked for my grandpa, today they came to our house to eat, and my uncle – who’s over fifty – seriously asked my mother if she couldn’t come by and do their laundry.

My mother has her own practice. She is the one who supports my father, my brother, me and herself. She also throws almost the complete household. (I don’t live at home anymore, only visiting during holidays) My brother does nothing, my father cleans occasionally.

And now my uncle seriously has the galls to ask my mother to handle their laundry too. And when I ask him how old he is and how he managed to live over fifty years without ever learning how to do laundry or iron a dress shirt, he doesn’t even have to defend himself – because my father immediately jumps to his defense and makes it very clear to me that what I was saying was disrespectful, that my uncle was a busy man, that he was working while I was doing nothing.

Funny, how no one realizes that my mother is the one working most out of home and at home, and how the fact that I study with top grades while cleaning my flat, doing my own grocery shopping and my laundry and everything is something that is only ever acknowledged as something great by my mother.

Because obviously, the men in my family have no idea how much additional work comes with that. Instead of my uncle, who’s healthy and the youngest in the house he’s living in with his parents steps up, he turns to my mouther, his younger sister, who’s ten times as busy as he is with her practice, her children, her own home, and asks her to do his laundry.

It’s just…why are we still stuck in this. Why is it so acceptable for men to be unable to do basic everyday things and why is it their right to ask women to do this work for them.

PLUS: When we got up from out shared meal my uncle and grandpa immediately disappeared – fine, they were guests. My brother vanishes. My father does the same. It’s me and my mom in the kitchen, because despite the fact it’s pissing me off how they behave, I feel like at least I should be helping her.

My father is retired and stays home all day, my mother still works—and yet my father does NOTHING at all in the house and expects my mother to do everything!

They’re not incapable, they’re entitled. They’ve been raised with the implicit idea that women are a servant class meant to do all this stuff for them because it’s beneath them.