“Most rape is not driven by an ignorance of what healthy, consensual sex looks like, but by sadism. And considering the severely gendered nature of this sexual crime, we must acknowledge that this sadism is generally a male phenomenon. We’re talking men hating women. Men wanting to own and dominate and punish women. When men rape women, it’s not an oopsie-daisy or a my-bad. When men rape women, it is a taking-of-pleasure in female pain. It is fear-mongering, it is woman-hating, it is a reminder to stay in your place.
And when rapists claim “b-b-but I didn’t know her little black dress didn’t mean yes!” or that they “didn’t know she was too drunk for sex,” they’re taking advantage of your gullibility and exploiting your empathy to cast themselves as oblivious victims. In harsher terms, they’re lying to you. By creating educational campaigns supported by thought-stopping slogans in lieu of critical analysis, in the hopes that next time they’ll behave themselves, you’re falling for it. Rapists don’t need it spelled out for them. Stop catering to their bullshit. Stop empathizing with predators. Stop.”
Rapists know exactly what they are doing and how horrible it makes their victims feel.
And they like it.
This is how I feel about “educating men” about feminism/patriarchy and “socialisation” and women’s oppression in general.
“They’re taking advantage of your gullibility and exploiting your empathy to cast themselves as oblivious victims. In harsher terms, they’re lying to you. By creating educational campaigns in the hopes that next time they’ll behave themselves, you’re falling for it. [Men] don’t need it spelled out for them. Stop catering to their bullshit. Stop empathizing with predators. Stop.”Don’t forget about rohypnol, and other drugs, which facilitate pre-meditated rape.
Can we please stop talking about rape like it’s an accident? – The Fifth Column
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