girlsfrommars:

secret-transgirl:

Dear terfs:

I am just a woman. That is what I am. I’m not a predatory man, or a sex crazed teenager just trying to get into peoples pants. I’m just a woman. I want my body to be that of a woman, I want to have boobs and a vagina and all the good and bad things that come with those things because my body feels inherently wrong without them, and because then at least I could just be a woman who no one says is anything else. Trust me, us trans women know that there is rampant sexism, and that this is a male dominated world, and that we will be looked down upon, even subconsciously, by men. But for fucks sake, being a trans woman is all the harder because even a lot of women look down on us. What ever happened to girls helping girls? Aren’t girls supposed to have each other’s backs? Why then, why the hell are some women demonizing us, when they say that they stand for feminism and womanhood, and women in general? Men hate us because we are women, or maybe sometimes they think we’re just faggots, and women hate us because we are women. All we want is to be who we are, who we KNOW we are. I want to be cuddled and kissed softly and taken out on dates and given flowers and be romantic and just generally a woman without people hating me for being a woman. I want to continue woodworking, and skateboarding, and reading horror novels without people saying I’m just a transtrender. You say you stand for women, and feminism, but any time a trans woman acts in the least bit masculine you point to that as “evidence” that of course we can’t be real women, and any time we act very feminine, you point to that and say “he’s over acting so people will believe he’s a girl” when we say we like sex, or express interest in having sex, you say “he’s just fetishizing women”

All I want. All that I want is to exist peacefully and not be hated for being a woman. I want to cry, I want to be fragile, I want to be sensitive, I want to be myself without people hating me for existing. I. Am. A. Woman. Stop putting down your fellow women and start standing with us. If you truly believe in feminism, if you truly believe in equality, stand with us. We are just like you. We just want to be women, and not be hated for it.

First off, ‘’terfs’’ do not hate transgender people in general, but we do despise so-called trans activists that dominate the transgender movement. These self-proclaimed activists are saying that lesbians should include males in their dating pool, they advocate for children to be put on dangerous drugs even though the majority of the children with gender dysphoria will grow out of it, they claim to support intersex individuals but actually contradict what the intersex movement strives for, they demand to be included in women’s spaces and feminism and they seek to redefine womanhood without giving a damn about what actual women have to say.

You are not a woman. You were born male and you will die as a man regardless of what you loojk like. Cosmetic surgery and artificially high levels of cross-sex hormones will not ever change the biological reality that you are a male. The word ‘’man’’ is defined as ‘’adult human male’’ in the Oxford English dictionary and this is the definition that is applied in the law and also in everyday life. You may not interfere with sex based protections that the law offers for women and you may not redefine what it means to be a woman.

Men hate you because they see you as a hyperfeminine gay man. To them, there is no difference between you and a drag queen. A lot of people think of transgenderism as a weird ‘’aspect’’ of homosexuality (when this is actually false). When they do feel attracted to you, they feel deceived and cheated and they cannot stand the idea of being attracted to another male because this poses a threat to their hetrosexuality. It has nothing to do with ‘’transphobia’’.

We radfems do not hate trans women. But we will criticise your movement and what it stands for.

Yeah most people have such romantic feelings, what’s your point? We are not saying that you specifically, or trans women in general for that matter, are horrible people. If you truly believe that to be true, I suggest you actually listen to what we have to say.

We radfems believe gender to be a social construct, ergo anyone can be masculine or feminine and this is not inherently tied to your biological sex. You being masculine or feminine does not legimitise nor disproves the claim that you are a woman. The fact that you are a male disproves your claim to womanhood.

On a sidenote: we do notice that a lot of trans women fetishise womanhood and equate being feminine to being a woman, which is disgusting and sexist. We also acknowledge that trans women were raised as boys/men and thus hold the same misogynistic ideas as the average bloke.

We do not have to stand with you if we don’t want to. You have no right to demand to be included in our movement. Women are oppressed based on their status of being female and thus feminism strives for female liberation. That excludes you and all males, transgender or not. The issues that trans women face are not rooted in them being female. Like I said, we wish to accomplish female liberation, not gender equality. Those are two different things and I suggest you actually read up on what radfems believe before you try to appeal to us.