terfy-tabitha:

I wish genderists would just allow bisexuality to have depth and scope rather than trying to micro-manage every individual’s difference of feeling into a new category

For example, I am bisexual but my attraction toward men and women are not the same.

I fantasize about women constantly. I find most women attractive and often think about dating them or having sex with women, whether they are someone I know or a celebrity or a fictional character. This is how I’ve always been since I first started puberty.

But with men… I do feel an attraction but while it’s there it’s just not the same. It comes with heavy conditions and it isn’t nearly as strong. I find fictional men much more palatable than any man I’ve actually met. I suppose it’s because I prefer men androgynous, or maybe just because most of the men I’ve met in person have treated me like garbage and in fiction I can escape that toxic masculinity through fantasy. In any case, not the same attraction at all.

If I were going by genderists ideas of things, I would be a “homosexual panromantic” or a “demisexual quasi-polysexual sapphic” or some other alphabet soup bullshit that just pulls one farther and farther from the reality of things. I am bi. All these meaningless categories do is pull bi people apart from one another by convincing them they experience sincere societal differences in treatment based on how many dates they’ll go on before having sex with somebody.

Genderists accuse radfems and lesfems of trying to “pull apart” the LGB community because genderists are projecting their own end-goals onto feminists. How much more pulled apart can you get than creating entirely new, empty categories for someone based on the slightest change in preference? No wonder they believe sexuality is fluid. Of course preferences change over time, but your innate sexuality does not. Focusing on the label far more than the material reality, to the point of denying the material reality, is nothing more than homophobia at work. And from a misogynistic and homophobic perspective it makes perfect sense to do this to us.

If they pull lesbians and bisexuals apart from one another both internally (normal lesbians vs. “queer sapphic” genderist-brainwashed lesbians) or externally (lesbians vs. bi women who think liking men in dresses makes them gay) we are all easier to conquer and wipe out through conversion therapies like church camps (for the conservative minded homophobe) and transgenderism (for the liberal minded homophobe).