Could you stop saying stuff like “this sounds pretty trans-exclusive” when it’s simply “opposite-sex exclusive”
“I can’t date a trans man as a homosexual male” isn’t trans exclusive. It’s stating that a gay man is not interested in female partners, regardless of anything
“I can’t date a trans woman as a homosexual female” isn’t trans exclusive. It’s stating that a lesbian is not interested in male partners, regardless of anything
I know you won’t stop, because that would mean framing issues for what they are, rather than emotionally manipulating situations to make yourselves look like victims
But a homo can dream?